Archive for May, 2014

About Mistakes

           Yes I have made a few (honestly I have made a lot).  The thing I have tried to learn from my mistakes is not to make the same ones over and over.  I have also attempted to instill this lesson into my children, all the while knowing that they will make mistakes along the journey of life.  I can also say I try and pass this knowledge along to my church to help and encourage them too.

      So what am I learning?  I am learning to resolve my mistakes (included in this is failures and sins, and no I am not watering down sin with the word mistake).

      I must take responsibility for my actions.  Now in society today we are taught / told “It is not your fault”.  We have trained a generation or two (and are now working on a third) to “blame” someone / something else for failures.  Let me say right here, we all have failed at least once in our lives and it was not someone or something else’s fault.  Take responsibility for you actions.  Paul said it this way “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” 1 Corinthians 13:11.  The devil likes to whisper “pass the buck” or “let someone else take the fall” or “you’re the victim here”.  While I was in the Navy I learned to take responsibility for my actions. You take responsibility for what happens “on your watch”.  We / I can always use a good dose of taking responsibility for my own actions while it is my watch (life).

     Another thing I have learned is to admit when I am wrong.  Now that was not easy to learn or do, but it is always necessary.  “I did it” is the simple admission; the hard thing to say is “I was wrong”.  Let me say right now that there are things I have been wrong about, but I am not going to list them here or rehash them (you will see why in a moment).  But I will admit my mistakes were my fault and because they were because I was wrong in many instances.  No “passing the buck” or “blaming others”.  Me, Myself, and I were all WRONG!  Along with this admittance, I have to accept the consequences of my actions. While setbacks and some pain do come, mistakes can be overcome and consequences managed.

     Lastly, I have learned to “move on”, even when my mind (and sometimes others) want to remind me of a mistake (failure / sin).  You have probably heard this before “I am glad God isn’t a Baptist, because then I would never be forgiven and He would defiantly never forget my mistakes”.  Let me encourage you to “Move On” and stop “replaying” your mistakes over and over again.  Reliving past mistakes cripples future initiative.  So many of us never achieve what God desires us to achieve because we never move on past our mistakes.  When you make a mistake; own up to it and move on….Quickly.  Don’t gloss over it, but don’t dwell on it either.  Moving on means you stop talking about the mistake, you use it as a learning moment.  Oh and saying “I know God has forgiven me, but I can’t forgive myself” might sound spiritual, but it is honestly just veiled arrogance (not to mention wrong theologically).  God forgives and He tells us to do the same.  Saying the above statement means you claim a higher standard, the inability to forgive yourself.  Time to come down off your spiritual high horse.  No sin / failure / mistake is too great for God’s forgiveness.  Our standard should not and cannot be higher than His..  When God forgives, you are forgiven.  Case closed…. Move On.

     Yes I have made mistakes, I have been wrong, I have failed, but I have also accepted responsibility for my actions and dealt with the consequences.  I learned from my mistakes and I am moving on (forwards not backwards).  Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:13-14

      So what about your mistakes?  What will you do with them?